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I was reading a chap blogger's posting the other twenty-four hours and it really really got me thinking. The article was based on the film Serendipity, a romanticist comedy. The plot line travels that two complete aliens run into each other and chemical science hits them like an atomic bomb but fate took over, they parted, went their individual ways back to their several partners. 5 old age ahead, both are about to acquire married, but they still have got got got each other on their mind!

I have been there before…

Ok, although nearly not as dramatic, I have been in a place where I still harbored ideas about person else while I was in a relationship. Not everyone can confess to that, and most maintain it within ourselves, but I can almost think that most of us dwell with "what-ifs" in mention to a love, lecherousness or memory we just can't erase. I didn't beat nor did I take stairway to advance an affair, but I secretly did clasp the torch for a very long clip and occasionally wondered, what if.

I was talking to my BFF and she told me about her tally in with her ex and his new biddy (a arch term we utilize on all ex-husbands new "friend"). She confessed that she still believes of him occasionally but could never see herself marrying him…ever. Funny isn't it how some loves and lovers lodge with us and go forth such as a deep grade in our lives. Who cognizes what will ever go on if we make up one's mind to take the plunge. I cognize one such as a friend who was in a fantastic relationship, but chose to prosecute the adult male of her dreams. She told me that she couldn't acquire dreamboat out of her head and she would repent her life if she never tried. It was a disaster! She lost both of them, along with the human relationship and friendship.

Some similar her are audacious adequate to try, but I doubt I'll be willing to destroy a good thing by caving in to temptation. Then again, who knows. After all, I make still throw the torch for that person…

Have you ever been in love? Some people are not quite sure. Other people say that they know they are in love now, so what they thought was love in the past must not have been. Knowing if you are in love is not always easy because love is such a complex emotion.

For centuries, artist, poets, philosophers, writers, and musicians have tried to define love through their work. Romantic notions of love express it as a quality of devotion that one feels towards another person. Yet the meaning of love for each person is highly complex. Here are some examples of how it has been expressed

"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but looking in the same direction together." – Antoine de Saint–Exupery

"One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is love." – Sophocles

"Love sees with the heart and not the mind; therefore; winged cupid is painted blind." – William Shakespeare

"My love there's only you in my life… You're every breath that I take; you're every step I make." – Lionel Richie,

"My love is like a red rose, that's newly sprung in June, My love is like the melodies, that's sweetly play's in tune." —Robert Burns

"You say that you love me like a river, a river you say will never run dry…Don't use that magical, mysterious, intoxicating, joy, fantastic, fascinating word called love unless you love me to the nines…the kind of love that takes over your body, mind and soul." —Prince

"Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions." —Woody Allen

"Love cannot be explain, it can only be understand" – Syed Qutubuddin

Another reason why it's so difficult to define love is that many people confuse it with the feelings of lust. Love makes you feel energized, content, and emotionally stable. Lust makes you feel anxious, jealous, and possessive. Lust, or infatuation, is based on sexual attraction. At first when you meet someone you are attracted to, you may feel a strong connection and label it as love or even, maybe, as love at first sight. But what you are most likely feeling is attraction, of lust.

If you only wants to have sex with someone you love, then how are you going to be sure that you love someone? Most often, time is the factor that answers this question. If you let several months pass and you still feel love for the person then you might be more certain that your feelings are real. As your involvement with the person grows, you may feel a deeper affection and a need to bond ever more with the person. In this case, love may grow into attachment.

With each person, the feelings of "falling in love" will be new type of sensation sometimes you fall in love with a friend you have known for years. Sometimes you fall in love with stranger you see across a crowded room. No two loves are alike

According to psychologist Richards Sternberg's theory of love, true love is based on a balance of three elements: commitment, intimacy, and passion. He explained that if any of those elements is missing you could still have love, yet different kind of love. The following illustration explains.

Because there are so many different types of love, and because everyone defines love so differently, it will be helpful to your relationship if you explain to your partner the type of love you feel. I'm hopeful that you will both understand each other maybe ever feel similar types of love for each other!

Intimacy = FRIENDSHIP

Passion = INFATUATION

Commitment = EMPTY LOVE

Passion + Intimacy = ROMANCE

Passion + Commitment = LUSTFUL RELATIONSHIP

Commitment + intimacy = COMPANIONSHIP

Commitment + intimacy + Passion = TRUE LOVE

One of the great things about being in a romantic relationship and knowing that someone is unconditionally in love with you is that it makes you feel wonderful about yourself. You see, healthy romantic relationships have a way of starting an amazing, unstoppable cycle: the more you fall in love with someone, the better you feel about yourself . . . and the better you feel about yourself, the more you are able to love someone.

The old cliche about "love thyself" is some of the best advice a romantic person can get to build a better, more loving relationship. I'm not taking about vain or conceited self-love; that type of mirror-gazing doesn't bring much to a romantic relationship. But feeling good about yourself, and being proud of yourself and the things you do, is one of the first steps we take in nurturing a healthy romance with another person.

We often discover wonderful things about ourselves when we're in love and are able to look through our lover's eyes. Just like hearing your own voice for the first time on a recording, seeing yourself through your romantic partner's eyes can be a surprising event. You may be initially skeptical to discover the reasons why your significant other loves you. You mean they love that about me? And they're proud of me for what?

Yes, it's true! Your romantic partner really is in love with you because of many qualities that you don't like about yourself or that you may have overlooked. And finding out what those things are might just help you appreciate those qualities in yourself, too.

Discovering the reasons why your sweetheart loves you can be a humbling, eye-opening experience that can help you appreciate your own good qualities even more. And by learning to appreciate your own good qualities, you'll be better able to give your lover more of what they love about you.

So if you haven't told your romantic partner what it is you love about them, today is the day to do it. It just might help them appreciate good qualities about themselves that they didn't realize they had.

And be sure to ask your lover, in return, to tell you what it is they love about you. You'll be amazed at how learning to love yourself more can improve your romantic relationship.

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